Lighting a New Way Counseling Services
5201 S Western Avenue, Suite 105
Sioux Falls, SD 57108
Practice Focus: Young child to five, Elementary age, Teen, Young Adult, Adult (Adoptee), Family Work, Couples Counseling, Adult (Adoptive Parent- Individual)
Specialties: FASD, RAD, PTSD, Grief and loss related to adoption, Childhood Depression, Family Work, Somatic Experiencing, Play Therapy, History of Physical Abuse, Sexual Abuse, ADD, Addiction, Self-Harming Behaviors, Eating Disorders
Individuals Services: Office-based service
Beliefs about adoption: “While adoption saves a child’s life or gives him/her a home, it starts with traumatic loss. It is the philosophy of this practitioner to teach caregivers how to heal, facilitate, and regulate grief, loss and trauma from a systems point of view. Adlerian theory is a nice canvas from which to practice as there is room for Bowlby’s attachment theory, as well as more current theorists such as Vanderkolk, Perry and Levine.”
Professional Bio: Ms. Stellinga is a master’s level therapist whose counseling agency is located in Sioux Falls, SD. She earned her master’s degree from South Dakota State University in Counseling & Human Resources Development, and her bachelor’s degree from the University of South Dakota in Alcohol and Drug Abuse Studies. She has worked in related fields for almost 25 years in outpatient and home based therapy, hospitals, alcohol and drug treatment centers, group homes and schools.
Currently, Ms. Stellinga works with adults who are struggling with depression/anxiety, or with families and children post-adoption. As an adoptee herself, she is passionate about educating ‘anyone who will listen’ about attachment and trauma issues and she is committed to teaching parents new ways to understand their adopted child(ren). She has spoken to many parent organizations, churches and mental health professionals.
Ms. Stellinga also offers training or seminars, using metaphor and stories to help attendees absorb the information presented. She will help listeners understand how adoption affects the brain of the adopted child and ultimately the family system. She teaches interventions to help parents facilitate the adopted child’s growth.